Pele's Rage..."Dear Washington, DC"...

No matter who says what - HAWAIIAN IS HAWAIIAN ! 

People do not like to make sure that their facts are straight, and while I may not now nor ever have the entire truth about just how we got to this point in history, the fact of the matter is that no matter how many times you want to put us - the Hawai'ian People - into another subset of ethnicities or into another origin all together, you cannot. We will not allow it. We are Hawaiians.

We are Hawaiian, dammit, and proudly so! And how dare anyone in DC try to take that away from us, and the likelihood of it being over money, or even the idea in my head that the person who made the statement about our origins, being over someone's laziness or even someone's under-handed motives....Hawaiians, no matter what, will always be Hawaiians, and while we are not the warring bunch, I cannot sit here and write that there is truth to the idea that there will not be a whole lot of people on the planet of Hawaiian ancestry who are going to tell me that I am wrong. Not one of my fellow Kanaka Maoli will ever, ever tell you that they disagree with me.

For too long now, the folks who are in power have been choosing for us who we are, and for a long time we have, at least in the state of California, enjoyed having the box to check that reads "Pacific Islander," and "Native Hawaiian." For a long, long time, the only box that any one of us could check on a form was called "other," and for a long, long time, we have been pretty well put off at the idea that the whole world knows about Hawai'i, that the whole world knows where Hula comes from, that the whole world knows the song "Tiny Bubbles," but that it seems as though some folks in Washington, DC, even as they know better, for the good of their states finances, have chosen to try NOT to get the facts straight. And while it is that nothing is nothing without anything being in writing, we do not know that our status in one of the states in these here which are united has not been changed.

They can't do that. We are Hawaiians. Hawaiian is Hawaiian, dammit!

HAWAIIAN IS HAWAIIAN !!

Let me make one thing very clear to anyone who is not clear on this one thing yet - Hawaiians are Hawaiians. While we might be able to be called "Native Americans," the bottom line is that we are Hawaiians. We, at one point in history, were ruled by a Monarchy, and like our Native American Ohana, we also, to this day, are dealing with the idea that too many people want to turn us into something that we are not. You cannot turn a cat into a dog, and you cannot get mad at a fish because it is not able to climb a tree - we are Hawaiians, and for the life of me and a whole lot of other people like me, this is an issue for us.

We are all taught to be very proud of our roots, and we are all told that we have to respect other people and who they are and where they come from if we expect others to do that same thing for us, but when the rubber hits the road we find that we have only been being told that things are nice and have only been lied to, over and over again, so that someone in Washington DC can score points with whoever it is that they are trying to score points with.

Well, lemme tell you what - it ain't gonna happen. It ain't gonna happen because all of us combined will never let it happen. Those creeps did this back in the late 1800's, when they jailed the most rockinest royalty - and in fact the ONLY royalty that these United States has ever had the HONOR of being able to say she was a part of this entire nation's history. We are a stand alone people. We are unlike any other people on the planet, and there is not another combined group of people of other origin who would not also stand up for who they are and mostly, stand up for everyone else who is just like them. For a lot of years it was that Hawaiians were divided - it was us on the mainland separated from them on the 'aina, and there has always been a little piece of me that has believed that this was some sort of conspiracy created by the very same people who want to take away our identity, even if said identity is no where near being scratched onto a piece of paper in some politician's office in Washington DC.

There is no way that the whole of us will ever allow this...violation of our ancestry and the right to being who we are and more - our birthright to being called "Hawaiian."

NO one has the right to tell anyone else who they are, and no one in Washington DC either has the right to strip, again, an entire populace of people, of their rights to be who they are. In my global ohana, the energy is that we are mad and like Dee Snyder sings, "WE'RE NOT GONNA TAKE IT - ANYMOOOOOOOOOOOOORE!!" 

We are SO not takin' it anymore...'auhea wale ana 'oe - PAY ATTENTION !

When you take away what is someone else's, you take away a piece of them, and in this case, in the case of my people, of my own Tribe, that of the Peoples of the Nation of Hawai'i, you are stripping me and many other people like me of who we are. Millions of people worldwide know who we are for the wrong reasons...because Dawg the Bounty Bonehead chose to show the world my island brethren and sisters in the ugliest of lights, and because the government has chosen to make sure that like our Native American Ohana, we, too, must struggle for the right to call ourselves "Hawaiian." We are tired of the battle, and we are tired of you folks not listening to us. There is a reason that ours was a warring people, long before we were a peaceful lot who only seek to maintain that which is still ours - the right to be who we are, and no matter what, as I have said, over and over again, you can change what you want to on your paperwork, but we are always going to be Hawaiians.

No matter what...HAWAIIAN IS HAWAIIAN and you cannot change that.

"Hawai'i Aloha"

(Rev. Lorenzo Lyons)

E Hawai`i e ku`u one hânau e
Ku`u home kulaîwi nei
'Oli nô au i nâ pono lani ou
E Hawai`i, aloha ê


E hau`oli nâ `ôpio o Hawai`i nei
`Oli ê! `Oli ê!
Mai nâ aheahe makani e pâ mai nei
Mau ke aloha, no Hawai`i

E ha`i mai kou mau kini lani e
Kou mau kupa aloha, e Hawai`i
Nâ mea `ôlino kamaha`o no luna mai
E Hawai`i aloha ê

Nâ ke Akua E mâlama mai iâ `oe
Kou mau kualona aloha nei
Kou mau kahawai `ôlinolino mau
Kou mau mâla pua nani ê

O Hawai`i, o sands of my birth
My native home
I rejoice in the blessings of heaven
O Hawai`i, aloha


Happy youth of Hawai`i
Rejoice! Rejoice!
Gentle breezes blow
Love always for Hawai`i

May your divine throngs speak
Your loving people, o Hawai`i
The holy light from above
O Hawa`i aloha

God protects you
Your beloved ridges
Your ever glistening streams
Your beautiful gardens

Hawaiian is Hawaiian...no matter what you say to me....we know who we are, and we are not about sit here and let anyone tell us who you think we should be.

There is a reason that the motto on the Hawai'ian Crest is what it is...and it reads, " 'Ua mau ke ea o ka 'aina i ka pono o Hawai'i Nei..."

Simply stated, it means that the life of the land is preserved in righteousness, and if you have been reading anything that I have written over the years in regards to my beautiful and mysterious ancestry, it is that we are the land, that we must malama the aina, and take care of the land. We are Na Mamo, we are the chosen precious ones onto whose shoulder the burden is not too great to carry, because it is our Kuleana to care for and malama the culture, not just for this present generation, so that the future generations will not have to depend on reruns of "Lilo n Stitch" to find out about who we really are and where it was that they came from...

Hawaiian is Hawaiian...get it straight, yeah?

Aloha oukou....I Love You All !! 

ROX

Rev. Roxanne K. Cottell is a book author, healer, Spiritual Consultant. She is a public speaker who advocates for victims and survivors of domestic violence and emotional abuse. She is the Co-founder of The Sisterhood of the Soul and the creator of the Na Hula O Ka Wahine 'Ui  healing with hula program. To contact her regarding booking  speaking engagements, to inquire about writing for you or for creative coaching sessions for business, "Corporate Soul Coaching" or for guidance to any of the Fires of Life issues, please contact her via email by clicking here
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Act Like a Human (Think Like a Genius)

Act Like a Human...

When talking in terms of business and running one, we must choose to think in the manner that is give and take, in the manner of reciprocation. When we reciprocate our energies with other people, no matter why or how, we are acting like a Human Being.

While I am sure that no one needs to be told this one thing, I am also sure that there are a whole lot of people who behave in their working lives like something that is no where near "human."  We want to separate who we are and be a bad person when it comes to our money, failing to the idea that in order to achieve, someone else must fail. This is not the truth. This is the most ugly thing that any one of us has ever been taught, and there are not a lot of people who were not taught that in order to make it in life, someone else can't. This is wrong. This is hurtful. This is one napoleonish thought that does not have to be, the idea that someone must lose.

No one has to lose. No one has to hurt. The only "has to" that anyone has to really truly even think about doing is changing your thoughts to match the thing that you want it to be, and in doing so, while you are so not thinking about someone else NOT making it so that you can, you will also be sending out that same energy that is nurturing your ideas and everyone who will ever have a thing to do with it. There is no need to think that you need to do more than just be you. And you are human, and most of the time human beings are such lovely carbon life forms that to NOT behave like one seems almost as though all of us are somehow trying to be the Terminator or perhaps some other fictional character that all little boys are told and taught is a "real" man, and ain't it about a bitch that the Terminator is a fictional ROBOT??? Quite telling, the way that we behave, right?

Acting like a human means simply to live with empathy for others, to give what it is that you intend to receive, to be of good cheer, and to always, always be mindful of the way that we treat others. This is not hard to do, but for a lot of people, it is the choice to not get railroaded, to not 'lose' anything and to be ahead of the rest of the crowd. For a lot of people too many are still stuck in the 80's, and by my count, while the 80's were a lot of fun, other than the music, I am glad they are no longer here. Back then it seemed that people were behaving like bad humans, taking advantage of every little thing they could and giving nothing in return. Everything was hoarding, was the mindset that in order to get ahead, you had to hurt others. This, my friends, no longer applies and anyone who thinks so is about to get the rudest awakening they have ever had to go through...yes, go through, and it is because all that time you did not know that you were creating your own Karma through all those things that you did that may have looked a lot like cutting corners for the good of the company, but when you think about it a little bit more, it was all about how much more money each individual had so they could go out into the world and show people how much more they had, how much more they could afford, and dammit if they were awful to other people about it.

Our accomplishments are not meant to be worn on our sleeve, and hell no they're not meant for us to go out into the world and prove to anyone else that we are better than others - we aren't better than anyone. We might be better at doing certain things than others might be, and they might even have things that they do that they are better at doing than a lot of people are, but not one person on this planet is better than anyone else. This is not my rule, but it is a fact - we all eat, sleep, excrete, and procreate the exactly biologically same way that anyone else will.

And like anyone else will, all humans tend to get hurt when others are not mindful of the things that they are conveying. Acting with Love tends to make it almost impossible, even when the message that we have to give is not the sort that makes a person feel all warm and fuzzy. Remembering to exercise empathy is an important skill to hone. It makes us remember that even though some of us might be at the pinnacle of success in our lives, we are yet still human, as is everyone else on the planet.

...think like a genius...

You may be wondering what behaving in a manner that tells us that we know other people exist has to do with thinking in a genius type manner...that much is simple - once you have allowed yourself the luxury of no longer behaving like a creep with no ability toward empathy you open wide the doors to receiving, and by this I mean that it is in the energy of acceptance and release that we are more able to expand our thoughts, to be creatively inclined toward making things in life a lot nicer for the world at large. We are all prone to bouts of genius-like thinking, all gifted with the ability to tap those reserves within where our own sense of compassion, empathy and where the "help a brotha/sistah out" gene is inside of all of us.

When we are able to free our minds from the thoughts that we have to get ahead no matter what, we are not more inclined toward setting ourselves up for the limited behavior that is setting lofty goals that, while they might seem like a great end result, while we are thinking about these lofty goals we are not thinking about the time between that it will take to see those results to fruition. When we are thinking in a genius-like manner, simplicity is key, because we all know that it is in the simplest things that the greatest thoughts help to form the greatest outcome. Thinking like a genius frees us and opens us up to more options and allows us to create new avenues in our thoughts and in our lives which will also allow the entry of those manifestations that we "see" with our minds' eyes.

When we think like a genius, we are basically taking what we have available to us and at our ready for our use and putting that energy of what we know we are able to do toward the things that we know we are prepared to have and to accept, including the acceptance of the truth at the onset of the genius-like thinking.

To think like a genius, as I have already stated, means that we are open to reexamining all of the things that we know we are able to do and that we would like to ponder how these tools can be used in a manner that is not like that which is typical for us, not like that which we always do. Genius-like thoughts come in the form of the answer, the goal in mind, and takes us backward in that thought process so that we can see how it was that we came to that "rough draft" of the goal, because as we all know the goal is never truly what we hope for and if we are open and willing, we will find that what we end up with is not only more appropriate for what it is that we are seeking to do, but more, what we end up with, even if it does not seem that way at the time, is exactly what is needed for us to move ahead on our Path.

Yes, it really is that simple...now, get your okoles out there and practice being human...see how wearing your own proverbial skin feels for a little while, and find out that you never needed to be that greedy prick who thought that there truly was just not enough of anything on the planet to go around...

You no longer have to fool yourselves into thinking that you are the only person who matters, and you no longer have to sweat it in terms of your ventures failing and you no longer have to deal with the idea that indeed, you have been a creepy prick for a long, long time...

Have you not heard yet? The business world...hell, the whole world...has become like California not being a smoker friendly state...the world has become a "Prick-Free" zone...

Stop being a prick already.

Seriously

I LOVE YOU ALL !!
ROX

Rev. Roxanne K. Cottell is a book author, healer, Spiritual Consultant. She is a public speaker who advocates for victims and survivors of domestic violence and emotional abuse. She is the Co-founder of The Sisterhood of the Soul and the creator of the Na Hula O Ka Wahine 'Ui  healing with hula program. To contact her regarding booking  speaking engagements, to inquire about writing for you or for creative coaching sessions for business, "Corporate Soul Coaching" or for guidance to any of the Fires of Life issues, please contact her via email by clicking here
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Kuleana...(Responsibility)

Kuleana means "Responsibility"

Leslie Morgan Steiner's Video Tells more than only my own story, almost verbatim...

I am addressing those who are in the position to say something to people, and the "say something" that I am talking about is domestic violence. The cause that I have taken up is my own, and while I know that there are many who also have taken the reality of domestic violence and emotional abuse and run with the idea that something needs to be said to many people at one time, there are still people for whom the reality that was theirs and the reality that is that of so many others' are starkly, markedly different.

Yet, that is not my "thing" right now, and no matter who tells me what and for whatever their reasons may be, the truth of the matter is that the message is not getting out there and it is not getting out there simply because we who are Ordained, some of us anyway, seem to think that it is somehow not okay to give the clue that we should be giving to those who are about to make the biggest decision of their lives in marrying the person who could become their abuser by our not saying even the tiniest little thing about what can happen. I know what can happen. I lived through what can happen, and it was not fun and neither was it easy and the affects of that sort of thing happening to a person are the kind that just will never go away. I keep being asked why things are one way when someone else's way worked, and I am sure that it did work, but not all abusers are the same, and when that one truth hits anyone's eyes or ears, we are all hopeful that somehow, the clueless will get it, but sadly, they don't.

A Call Out To All My Fellow Clergy Folk...

At this moment, I am sure that there are words being exchanged about my own take on how we as ministers should take the time to tell those who are about to be joined legally (unless they divorce) that there is the very real chance that there will be abuse, and no, I don't expect anyone to just blurt it out just like that. No way! That is offensive and that is hurtful, and no, it is not my intention to hurt anyone at all. It is my intention to make it clear to ANYONE WITHIN MY REACH that this horribleness happens everyday, and sometimes, it happens within the confines of our own lives and we haven't the tiniest clue that it is happening.

While I am not sitting here telling anyone how to run their lives or their businesses, I will sit here and ask many of you reading this to please not take offense to the things that you are reading right now, as they are not meant to offend, only to inform.

If you are not looking for the signs of abuse, you will not see them, no matter what, and not a whole lot of us even knows what those signs are, because none of us enters into any kind of agreement where we will lose and the other party will win and we are just happy and greatly satisfied with it. If you do not know what to look for, how will you know what you are looking at? These are the things that are specific to abuse victims and survivors, and these are the things that we need to make known to the world of people that abuse is not a form of Love - it is abuse, and no matter who tells me that they disagree with the things that I say or do, no one, only I, will know how to deal with it. But there is a way to at least try to prevent it.

SAY SOMETHING, DAMMIT !!

Yup...I said it, now deal with it - we Ministers, Clergy folks, Wedding Ministers who only do weddings, Celebrants...whatever it is that you call yourself, listen up!! You can help prevent these things by simply saying something about it to your charges. I know, I know....there are some of you reading this who are tired of my message about Domestic Violence and Emotional Abuse, and I know, too, that there are very few of you who know my entire story, and why would anyone want to hear about that when instead it seems like a better idea to grab a clue about things, and who better to grab that clue from than someone who has been there, who has survived the ugliness of her own "There" and who has come out on this end, scarred, yes, but very, very informed, if that is what you want to call it, about the things that happen to a person - male or female - when they are in the middle of a hell that they may not have known was in the making because they had no clue how to call it.

When we are children we are warned against the bully in the sandbox, but the confusing message that we get from our parents, sometimes, at least from what I have heard, is that if the person we are interested in is the grown up version of that same bully, that as long as he makes enough money, it makes it a little bit tolerable because it - the money - makes it all okay. Well this is the biggest lie of all! There is not one thing that makes abuse on another person okay. There is nothing in my own memories that tell me that you have to go through someone else's imposed-upon-you hell so that you can have some coin in your pocket.

Yeah yeah... I know... I was raised to Love for Love, not for Love that came in the form of someone else's ability to make a whole hell of a lot of it. The truth is that I know now that I am worth more than I was told I was, that I am as wonderful as I have been told, and that I am more Loved than I even will ever know, but at least I no longer believe the things that I was told by the one person who I volunteered to trust, and I could, when we were dating, because he was not violent when we were dating. I took his jealousy as his only loving and being devoted to me, but the truth was that he was so worried that someone else would be better than he was that I would leave him for that person, and well, emotionally, I did - I left him, but I left him for me and me alone.

It is not a dead horse, and it is not being beaten to death...nothing should ever get beaten to death, at least not something this important

 Rather than sitting here and talking about the uglies any further, what I want to say to you all is that if you are in ANY position to help another person out, it is not your place to tell them what you would do if you were or even when you were in their shoes. As a minister, my own thought is that it is not only your place, but your Kuleana to at least say something, even if you have to make the message more palatable by changing the language you use - say something. In saying something you are doing something, and in doing something you are preventing more heartaches from a situation that needs nothing more than the Love between two people. If you say nothing, you are not drawing on that experience that you had, that was actually given to you to find your way out of, on your own and through your own means, and that is a waste of the time that you took in order to figure out your own way out, even if your own way out means that you escape in your mind because life circumstances and who you are will not allow it to be another way.

Auhea wale ana 'oe - please kokua me and pay close attention, namely if you yourself were abused at one time during a Love relationship. You were brought to the position of Minister and it was not a mistake that you were. You went through the things that you did and survived. You are now the person who those getting married are paying the most attention to who is not the bride. Take advantage of this knowledge and take advantage of the rapt attention you are getting right now and let go of your title, because you title means nothing if you do nothing with it that leads to a greater understanding of the words "By the power vested in me." There is a lot of power in your position, in the position that I also hold, and it is my own opinion that we should be giving back to the rest of the world the thing and the person who we are, and if we have been taught about the ugliness in married life through the stain called abuse, then of course - take your silly asses out there into the world and go tell it on a mountain, and tell it to whoever will listen - no, not only your own story, but also, your message of Love and that you do not want anyone to hurt, and to please, watch your asses, all you newly married folks, because there is always the chance that things can turn ugly, and who is really going to marry a dangerous person if they know that the person is dangerous?

I mean really...we are not  Malory Knox...we are not Mickey's demon bride who likes to go out into the world and take life away from others....and we are not all abuse statistics waiting to happen.

Just imagine the things that we can help to avoid by simply just saying something...anything, at all, about the reality that is domestic violence within marriage! Within life!

Come on now...you can do way better than that, can't you? You can do better with your piece of paper that endows you with the power to put two people together in holy matrimony...or holy hell...

You choose...say something and you have done EVERYTHING that you can do.

...but choose to say nothing?

That is for another blog...

Until next time, know that this one thing still always will remain as the Truth of me, and that one thing is

I LOVE YOU ALL !!
ROX

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Out with the old...In with the remembered

We all take the scenic route once in a while...

I am not perfect by any means. In fact, I am so IMperfect that to think of me being anywhere near perfect would send me back about ten years, when I knew better but was still kind of ...I don't know...foolish. And we are all prone to being very, very foolish from time to time, and in our working lives, we have all played the fool somehow, either by our own doing or because we have been "outshined" by someone else.

We are never really out-shined, shown-up, outdone...

Yes. This is the truth. What we rarely think about when our Ego is telling us the things that we already know way too much about is that underneath all of that whiny and feeling belittled exterior is the Truth, and most of the time the Truth about us, whether we like it or not, the truth, that is, is somewhat of a surprise. Even though we knew about it, we thought we could hide it well enough for us to not have to bother with because we really thought that no one else would know our dirty little secret. That is the fun part about our secrets - we do not realize that we give them away, because when thinking in terms of who we are and what we are all about, that part of us that is needy for the attention and more, the good word about the things that we do.

...okay, maybe "needy" is the wrong word....but you get it, I know you get it.

Everybody likes to hear good things about our selves.

I must tell you about my dear online friend, Ms. Melody Fletcher, (Hi, Snarky!) who is an expert on the art of utilizing thought correctly to bring about the situations, people, and things into our lives that we are most desirous of. In a nutshell, and very simply, Ms. Fletcher's message, for the most part, and at least mechanically, is that the actual deliberate part of the receiving is contained within the vibration that we emit when we think about something. If we keep on thinking the thought that we want something, and we continue to want that something rather than forming thoughts that do not do anything more than raise our vibration about having that thing manifested into our lives, we will only have the experience of wanting that something. If you want to keep feeling like you are wanting that thing or situation, you are always and only going to have that experience. However, if you think about what it could be like...(because you know, it could happen) to actually be doing that one thing, or having that one thing, or being that person, or being with that special person...and have no feelings other than what that feels like right now, you will begin to see changes in your thoughts, which will bring changes to your life.

Did you get all of that? It really is very simple - just change your thoughts to more believable ones. Rather than thinking that you want anything, think about what it might feel like to actually have that thing, and then think about how your body feels physically and remember that feeling whenever you have a doubt about that one thing. I have done it and I know that she is telling us the truth. If we understood the mechanics of our bodies, and how it is that our biology is meant to be magnetic, meant to bring everything we want into our lives, no matter what it might be, we would have more of the things that we want in our lives, and really...very much less of the things we would rather see less of.

See? Easy, right?

Haha!

No.

Bahahahahahahaaaaaaaa....

Oh, HELL NO!

Changing clothes and changing beliefs about stuff are NOT the same thing. One is outside of us and the other is inside, and because we are taught to believe that what we look like matters most to the world, that how we felt about who we are mattered only by our manner of dress. Did we look well manicured, and did our clothes look just so, and did we remember to pop some gum into our mouths after we smoked that last cigarette....no judging...people have vices and smoking is a bad one...did we do things that we needed to do, or were told mattered, matter more to others than to us, and on that note, are these people before us really judging us?

And thus, the madness begins. We begin to judge ourselves and our choices and we begin to rely on everyone else and believe that without others there for us to expect them to understand us, we would not know ourselves. Then we go out into the big fat world and we pretend to be who we are not so that someone else will judge us. And this ridiculousness goes on for years and years, and then one day you find that your beliefs about a lot of things have changed, and that no longer are you that person who you were just six months ago. It is scary and beautiful all at once, and the changes, they HURT, because in those changes come also the people we have to say goodbye to, and our problem is not that we are saying goodbye to them, but more, to a little piece of ourselves that we no longer can grow from. It's purpose - THEIR purpose - has been met, and we are now better and smarter and more grateful for their having been a part of our lives for however long they were there.

And we cannot know anything other than that on their side of things, they are just as sad, and they hurt  just as much, but like we know, they know too that it is just time, and this part of the Path is done for now between us. Nothing is ever truly goodbye in the world of Souls. We always have that Love, those memories, and this is where I tell you about remembering...

Remembering Who We are Comes at a Cost but it is worth it

We recall who we really are when the time is right and we are ready. Most of the time we cannot handle it, because it came at a cost to us, and the cost is always personal. When we grow, we hurt, because we lose a part of ourselves, but the truth is that we have just outgrown that part. We know when people have been a lesson in our lives, and we also know when it is that those who go away and return do so because they are meant to. There is no such thing as goodbye, I said, in the world of the Soul. We are all there, all of us, all the time, and always we can connect, in a thought, in a remembrance.

We remember being this Loving person, and we know that we cannot go back, even though we know that now and then, we will look back and recall what we put ourselves through, some of us for years, because we believed someone else's thought about us was better or more right than our own. This is not to say that it is okay to hurt, because hurting for no reason never happens - we always hurt for a reason. We become our true selves through our pain and we recall a time when we had something as harsh as Now is for some of us, and realize that we got through it, again, and this time, we believed differently, and this time, everything just sort of gelled together. It sort of just started to fit.

Quite well, I might add.

It is not easy, but all the way around...

Seriously, if you want to think about your future, no matter what you are doing in what area of your life, you have GOT TO let go of your past. I have had a very big turn around. I used to wield my creative nature like a sword, and then one day I hurt someone's feelings, badly, and meant to. A few times, but it didn't matter to me then. I made amends and we went our separate ways. And I still Love them. The know I do, but I cannot hang, so ...you know...they just kinda went away, too.

And I think about it now, and I know who matters, and those who matter the most to me know that this is the truth of me, and more than that, the one thing they needed to know the very most of all is that of course...

...yes, Loves...

It could also be called the very real and seriously true Truth of You, as Well. I Promise.

How are you financially right this moment than you were at this time last month? How about in your relationships (ugh! So heavy a word!) ? How are your children's lives? How is your pet? Do you have a roof over your head? Do you have ANY income at all? What are the things that you know you DO have?

Yup...that easy, or so it would seem, but it isn't. It is though, the very foundation for your success, not just in your work, neither school, but mostly, in your life, period. Once you can change one thought about one area, the others seem to be a little easier than the last time. You should try it...just one time.

What part of your life do you need to see a change in?
How does that affect the other parts?

Answer those two things, and be honest with you, about all of it. Then ask yourself how you feel about all of those things that you wrote, and pay attention to your body's response to your thought, because your body cannot lie, ever...it knows what is best for you...

...all the way around...so trust it. I keep on telling you all how magnificent we are, and you just keep on getting sick....knock it off, would you?

Yeesh !!  Haha !!

I Love You All !!
ROX

Enough with the bullsh*t...let's get this party started already

There are a lot of blogs that explain how someone else became successful, but not a lot that glorify in the "almost there."

As anyone who knows me well can tell you, I am the one friend who is going to support you if your dreams are not so outlandish that there is a modicum of "it could happen" to them. I am also that one friend who, no matter what, will tell you when you are making a complete ass out of yourself. Of late I have been more the one who will tell a friend when they have other options, that they do not have to hurt the way that they have been, and that more than anything, please, just don't give up. Never give up on something that means anything to you at all.

Let's get this party started...

Enough already with the "this is where you f*cked up really good!" and time for "hey! look at how far you have come ! Come on! Keep going!! You are doing great!" We have all been going through a mess of unclear clarity, where we know that we have to keep on going because without our keepin' on that for real the dream which is alive and well within us cannot become what it is meant to become if we just give up and give in. Yet we are told, endlessly even, by many an untried "guru" that we can do whatever we put our minds to and that no matter what, we can keep going.

Well, my thought about it all is that you have the very audacity to dream, so you best not have the idiocy to not follow through. Yes, I said "idiocy," because only an idiot would not follow the dream that he or she knows is alive within them and is so for a good reason. We don't just fart these great ideas that we have - great ideas come from somewhere. We don't just imagine that the new people in our lives are somehow there without purpose. Contrary to the thing that you are willing to believe is the idea that you have no choices, no options, that your dreams will not ever be because you are not good enough, smart enough, this or that enough.

I am sorry, but I have a different thought, and that different thought is meant to be the thing that makes you realize that who you are is divinely powerful in that you had the very thought in your head to do something very magical with your life and with your time, and my friends there is no better time than right now for you to  make sure to it that your Soul understands that after all we have each been through, that there is no better time to start realizing the dreams which have waited for so long to become the reality. The reality is that there are a lot of folks right now who have these magnificent ideas and have these thoughts that, on paper, would rival that of ANY Forbes Fortune 500 lister's ideas. The reason that there are people whose ideas get "found" by those companies are many, but the reason that anyone would have those ideas and the inclination to make their own dreams possible...well, now, that is the stuff that everything that you think is cool is made up of.

Steve Jobs was not an innovator only - he was a dreamer. I understand dreamers. I am one. I know the thrill of coming up with a new marketing idea, and I know what the elation is that is borne of one more sales call being made from a new customer because of something that I wrote that was the catalyst for a relationship spawned from the Dreams that some folks believe are too lofty to have, and on the other side of that thought, that the person dreaming it believes will never become the reality that they see in their heads as being also possible to be the reality they know as tangible. The impact the man made on the world and how we communicate is bigger than we think it is, and while he is no longer here with us, still, he lives.

And this is the main thing that I wanted to tell you all today - that no matter what happens in our lives, we have the chance, everyday, to begin to live the dream, begin to see the things that we want so badly actually become, all we have to do is believe it...that way, we will see it. If we can see it, we can also feel like it can happen.

"WRITE IT DOWN!"

Up there...there where the title of this blog is at, where I say that it is time to get this party started, I mean that we need to learn to write things down. Many of my students and healing clients want to know why I have them write things down. It is simple, really...a thought is a thought, and while our thoughts become things, waiting for a thing to come to us is maddening if we cannot see it for real. I have these people write things down for many reasons, with the main reason being that when you write down your thoughts, automatically, that thought has become a tangible thing, because you wrote it down, and that is what I call immediate proof that we are all magically inclined in a sense that not one of us realizes is far more powerful than our human brains can handle. This is the reason that I write everything down - not only because I have a million other things floating around in my thoughts at any given time of day, but because sometimes I need proof that we are responsible for the things that we manifest in our lives.

The things that we manifest in our lives, when we manifest them, are awesome and the moment that it happens we become a new person.

Yes, a new person, because at that point we find out how miraculous we really are. We find out that there is nothing in this world that we cannot have, or do, as long as we are willing to do the work involved. When it is that we wish for the immediate manifestation of a thought, I have my students and my clients write down their thoughts. No one ever thinks about it until after they have written their thoughts out that there are things that we think about that restrict our ability to see the miracles that we create. When we write out our thoughts, we are, in that moment, creating the miracle of manifestation in our lives. Writing things down brings the law of attraction to life for us and at that moment, we see our ability in full force and we know for sure that we are as powerful as we have always wanted ourselves to be.

What we never were told, or taught, is that we are magic in and of itself, that truly, we are the miracle which we are all waiting to have in our lives. What we are not given as the gift of freedom in thought is the idea that our power lies within us and that we alone are who is responsible for the things that we see in tangible form.

All it takes is that one little exercise - that moment that we write things down and see for ourselves the things that we think about, and we will know for sure that absolutely - it is high time to get this party started...

So what? What're you doin', thinkin' about it?

Well, since that's the case...go write it down...
Find out how powerful you really and truly are!!

I LOVE YOU ALL!
ROX

Rev. Roxanne K. Cottell is a book author, healer, Spiritual Consultant. She is a public speaker who advocates for victims and survivors of domestic violence and emotional abuse. She is the Co-founder of The Sisterhood of the Soul and the creator of the Na Hula O Ka Wahine 'Ui  healing with hula program. To contact her regarding booking  speaking engagements, to inquire about writing for you or for creative coaching sessions for business, "Corporate Soul Coaching" or for guidance to any of the Fires of Life issues, please contact her via email by clicking here
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Margo has been stricken with breast cancer, and she is at stage 4 level, but Margo is a fighter, and Margo refuses to just give in to this ailment. 

It is the Kuleana of The Sisterhood of the Soul to kokua those most in need of healing in whatever way that we can, and in this instance, we have chosen to help our sister, Margo, but we really need your help. 

At this time, we have decided that we will give to Margo fully 25% of the $20,000.00 that we have pledged to ourselves as a part of our own Mana'o, our own thought, not only to have a better means by which to be out in the world to do our work within our own communities, but more, within the global Sisterhood as well. Margo need us, all of us, to help her with this part of her Path. 

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Aloha Nui Loa

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Po'okela...Creating our own Excellence through shared measures of Respect

"Ahuwale ka po'okela I kau hana ia ha'i" 
("It is through the way that you serve others that your greatness will be felt"...Hawai'ian Proverb)

It should be a no brainer - when you do stuff, do like Bill and Ted's Excellent Adventure tells us to and "Be Excellent to each other ...and party on, dudes!!" (Couldn't help it haha)...this is not something that should take any thought to do. Most of us were raised to be good to other people. It's called having respect and doing the best that you can do, no matter what.

Problem is, there is that respect thing again, and the world is in vast and sore need of a new kick in the okole about it, because the truth is that we have lost all semblance of the word, let alone the energy.

Respect...it is a whole lot more than just a really great song by Ms. Aretha...

First off, the idea that we will treat other people as though they are meant to be at our service and the idea that a lot of people think that it is okay to still pander to the mid-80's thinking that more is better, that we have to make a grab for everything we see so that we don't miss out on what is really great is far past its prime, and while this might now be habit and second-nature to a lot of people, it just is not right. This is not cool. In fact it is not cool in every possible way that anyone could think of it not being cool. To take from others, even if they offer it, and have no intention to give back, is wrong. It is selfish and creepy and all that other good stuff that we think is all good even though it is offered by someone else.

To live with the intention that is "take what you can and run before they stop giving it away" is damaging to our souls, and anything that is damaging to our souls is truly going to also damage our lives in many more ways than only one, and one place where this damage shows up is in our working lives. Regardless if you are your own boss or you work for someone else, the fact remains that these are no longer the "take as much as I can and run" 80's, and it is also not the touchy-feely-way-too-soft-on-life 90's, and of course we are in decade number two in this new age of both living and working. The idea that we can do anything without the thought in our heads, also, that we have to be as excellent as we can be all the way around, to some people, seems like a foreign thing to them. Yet it is only foreign because they are not aware that even though they may have learned to live their lives the way they used to in the past, that they have the option to no longer be those creepy, self-centered and arrogant jerks they have been for so long now.

What IS their fault is the idea that they cannot change, and it is not because they cannot - let's be real here, shall we? The truth is that they either are too lazy to change, even though they want the change to happen to them, or they think that if they are still making theirs, that no one else matters. While this is the truth when thinking in terms of being better for one's self, there needs to be a balance between the idea that Truth brings success, and every person for themselves.

Respect is the thing that is still lacking in life, and respect is the one thing that many people operate their own lives from, because when you have respect for the thing that you Love so much - your livelihood, your family, your hobbies, you whatevahs - it shows, not only in the way that you live your own life, but more, the way that you affect the lives of others who share that life with you. I could sit here and tell you story after story about anything under the sun, anything that has happened in my own personal life, happened in my professional life, and the bottom line is that wherever I have done anything at all these past five years, always, I have tried dearly to do with respect, at least for myself, my gifts, my talents and what it is that I bring to Life for others to share with me.

What it is to Life that we bring for others

We are who we are for a good reason, and none of us knows that reason but always that reason seems to come barreling through when it is most needed that it does. This is the way that this stuff rolls. This is the reason that in life we are met with certain people and who those certain people are in our lives is as important to how we live as much as who we are. Who we are is not dependent on what other people think of us, but our pleasures and blessings in life totally do depend on who we are and more, how we treat others.

It is nothing for an intellectually smart person to be able to produce great ideas, but for some whose lives are lived literally "by the book," there is a bit of high and mightiness to many of them. This leads to those IQ'd and big-brained (hi! I Have a big fat brain) to believe that we are somehow better than the rest of the population when thinking in terms of smartness. It took me a VERY long time to get over my own IQ and to get to what is real in both my life and in my practice, and that one thing that is very real to me is not that I am respected but that I know I have respect, and I know that I have built my own level of integrity that is unshakable. This was not something that happened overnight. It took me a lot of years to no longer be a jackass, a long time to get out of my own way to see what is there and is real, and the realest thing in the world, as you will find out, is not what you can produce but more, what you can offer.

If you cannot offer respect, empathy, integrity, what you produce will be nothing that really matters in terms of what is real. There are many healers on this planet, and many of those healers are not the sort who are not willing to not be sneaky, who are too prone to allowing their egos to take the lead, and that normally leads to their wallets getting fatter, but there is nothing saying that people who do what I do have to behave like behemoth morons. I know this moron. I was this moron, but I am not anymore. I chose to be of service to others, to drop the idea that I was going to get anything in return, and realized that the thing that I am given in return is the respect that I do not even have to ask for, but that most surely I do get, just as my Sisterhood also gets.

We are treated with respect because we are willing to not only give it, but to live it and exude it in huge amounts. It is just something that we do and simply is just how we roll. We know that the work that we do with people is very important, not only to their Spirits but in some cases, to their very physical health as well, and we also know that there needs to be a certain measure of respect for the sick, respect that they might not be ailing because of something going on in their souls and that maybe they got it from eating something that they should not have or because it came from someone else. No matter what, we know that because of the work that we do that only the results are tangible and that the "medicine" we provide is not, that the utmost in allowing our clients to know that we are every bit all what we tell them we are and know that we are, we must operate from the very highest place that we can. That is not our rule, and we did not make it up, but we try hard to not break that rule, and people know that we are not in this just for a paycheck - they know that we truly and actually care about their very well being.

It is portrayed in our marketing efforts, on our website, in every single email that we send and every text and chat message. We know that this sort of work requires a bit of good judgement and loads of clarity on our part, and because we know this and we know that respect is tantamount, we are very good at serving our clients with LOADS of all of it, because simply, that's just how the Sisterhood of the Soul, rolls. We know that what we do is still one of those healing "things" that many still raise their eyebrows to, but we also know that because we have respect for humanity as a whole, we are also met with that same measure of respect, of Love, of everything that we give that we do not charge for. And this is the way that it is meant to be.

The way that it is meant to be

The way that things are meant to be will end up being the way that we see them as being if we are not more aware of the reason that we are being treated one way or another.

The way that things are meant to be will not always match in terms of what we want to see. If we want to see something, we have to be what we want to see. If you want respect, be respectful. If you want to make a profit, pretend (yes, pretend) and Be profitable even if it is only in your intentions. You have to be what we want to see, if you want respect in both your working life as well as your personal life, then be who you want to draw to your life.

This is not something that no one knows. In fact, we all know this.

Now we all need to practice it....so...

Who's game?

Who is ready to see the results of practiced Respect?

Anyone?

I Love You All !!
ROX

Rev. Roxanne K. Cottell is a book author, healer, Spiritual Consultant. She is a public speaker who advocates for victims and survivors of domestic violence and emotional abuse. She is the Co-founder of The Sisterhood of the Soul and the creator of the Na Hula O Ka Wahine 'Ui  healing with hula program. To contact her regarding booking  speaking engagements, to inquire about writing for you or for creative coaching sessions for business, "Corporate Soul Coaching" or for guidance to any of the Fires of Life issues, please contact her via email by clicking here
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